This home practice will help you transform your limiting beliefs into confidence.
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There are a lot of misconceptions when it comes to self-love. One of those is mistaking self-love for egoism. A lot of people assume that loving ourselves must mean being cocky or selfish, but that’s not true! To love oneself is to be comfortable in who you are. It means no longer doubting your potential. Self-love is standing in your power so that you can create the life you seek.
Have you ever set a goal and fulfilled it? Have you ever worked toward a vision that came to fruition? We are “powerful beyond measure” as spiritual teacher Marianne Williamson says. We are the architects of our dreams! So why do we doubt ourselves? It is easy to forget all we’ve accomplished and our limitless potential when we get bounced around like pinballs by the external circumstances of life. If we can remember just how powerful we are, and if we can stand confidently in that power, we can create any life we imagine.
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For this to happen, we must identify our limiting beliefs. We hear this word a lot today in personal development and spiritual circles. “Limiting beliefs” are critical thoughts, negative self-talk, and old belief systems we have about ourselves or the world. They arise when we doubt our potential. Man, can they ever feel like reality, but I promise you, they are not! They are just fears.
If you can label and recognize limiting beliefs as fears rather than reality, you’ll be better prepared to combat them. You’ll start to understand that the question is not, “Can I have the things I desire?” but really, “Why couldn’t I?” Because manifestation not only takes clarity in knowing exactly what you want to bring in, it requires the that you deserve it. Because you do! Take the reins of your life and stand confidently in your power. That my dear, is self-love.
This 5-pose sequence will help you manifest the life you want, teaching you to stand in your power:
Race Car Legend Danica Patrick Has a New Podcast Out this Week
The 20-year yoga student chatted with us about Gloria Steinem, pranayama, and finally perfecting her Scorpion Pose.
At 5’2”, Danica Patrick is a force to be reckoned with. The only woman to have led laps in both the Daytona 500 and the Indianapolis 500, Patrick is no stranger to staring down her fears. The 37-year-old author and longtime yoga practitioner retired from race car driving last year, and today she’s channeling her take-no-prisoners attitude into an inspirational podcast, aptly titled Pretty Intense, in which she interviews famed guests such as Neil deGrasse Tyson and Alex Rodriguez about tough topics like what it takes to win, spirituality, and what makes us human. We caught up with her to talk about her new career goals, her yoga practice, and what she dreams about at night.
Yoga Journal: Why a podcast?
Danica Patrick: I just spend a lot of my time listening to inspirational podcasts and watching these types of videos, and I thought that it would be really fun to go deep with people and find out more about the parts of their lives that were difficult or transitioned into something good and find out how they did it. When I watch something or listen to someone speak, I want some action points. What did it take to get where they are? What techniques did they use? How are you going grow—not just as an idea but how are you going to do it. So now I talk to people to find out how they did it.
YJ: What guests are you most excited about so far?
DP: I loved the conversation with Neil deGrasse Tyson. We talked about religion a lot it was int bc he’s an astrophysicist. What a cool and smart guy. I feel like it’s going to be cool for people to hear about the universe and the fabric of our reality what makes us humans and what makes us unique. Oh, and Gloria Steinem. She was refreshingly simple and really fun to talk to.
YJ: Who’s your dream guest?
YJ: What keeps bringing you back to your yoga mat?
DP: I’ve realized how important the mental aspect of the practice is—being able to connect with the breath, turn your thoughts off, and return to something repetitive and simple. It’s so powerful for overall emotion and mental wellness to be focused in that way. It’s been really good for me to focus on the small stuff, because I have a very driven, type-A, goal-oriented side of me that wants to accomplish difficult poses and touch my feet to my head—which I finally did a couple months ago in Scorpion!—I’ve had dreams about my feet touching my head. I don’t know if that makes me weird, but I’ve definitely had those dreams.
YJ: Home practice or yoga studio?
DP: Mine’s a home practice. I think it’s easier to progress at home because you can take time to focus and work on whatever you want. In a class, you have to go with the flow. I’m trying to get more consistent with meditation as well. It took until a couple years ago for me to breath through each movement—in through Up Dog and exhale through Down Dog—the simplicity of breathing through was not easy for me. Doing pranayama work and getting deeper into mediation has been super powerful and ultimately the most important part of my home practice. Without meditation and pranayama, you may as well do any other fitness routine. There are ways to burn calories, but yoga really focuses on the mind, body, and breathing.
YJ: How did yoga influence your racing career?
DP: Breathing for sure was a big deal for me in racing. I’ve always understood the power of a deep breath for slowing things down. I’d take slow breaths in through my mouth and out through my nose to reset the adrenaline, focus, and slow down. I’ve always believed that if you can bend, you don’t break. That mantra was always helpful for me when accidents would happen. My body was going to places in ways it shouldn’t, but I was able to get out of the sport without any major injuries. I always felt because of my flexibility, I bent and didn’t break.
Yoga Helped Clare Cui Find Peace In Her Body
Weightlifting was wreaking havoc on my body and spirit—until I found yoga.
I couldn’t see much in the darkness, but I could smell the tanning oil that covered the toned bodies of women who were nervously clustered together in lines waiting to take the stage. As I stood there in my group, my number pinned to my bikini, I looked down at my body, which I had beat into peak physical condition, and I still didn’t like what I saw. I’m sure I looked confident in my own skin, but what I really wanted to do was to crawl out of it.
I know there are countless women who feel self-conscious about a little squish on their belly or thighs—wondering what new workout or crash diet to try—constantly worrying about making “healthy” decisions around food and exercise. For a long time, I was no different. I was insecure and constantly pursuing the “perfect” body. It was a race that I was never going to win. I was inundated by negative messages in a culture where validation, praise, and value relied on placing in competition. I couldn’t get out of the get-up-and-grind mentality. This chiseled body that kept garnering praise became an addiction.
That is exactly why—despite the three first-place fitness titles I had earned that year—I was left waging a secret war against myself and my body. In that moment in the darkness backstage, my soul was sending out an SOS. I knew something was wrong.
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I left that competition and tried to go back to my life as the head strength and conditioning coach at a Denver public high school. I vowed to let go of superficial goals, obsessive negative self-talk, counting calories, incessant workouts, and all-consuming anxiety about what I looked like on stage. This spaciousness in my thoughts was a welcome breath of fresh air, but it also felt strange and empty. Without competition, I craved focus, so I threw myself into fostering strength in others, helping students to rid themselves of pain and reach their physical goals.
My students had restricted movement from ailments such as torn ACLs and back problems. I grew fascinated by how the body moves and how rigidity causes all sorts of problems. Health wasn’t just about strength. I was discovering another piece of the puzzle: Flexibility—both physically and mentally—was critical. Bulldozing my way through competitions on shear strength and willpower like I had been was killing me because I didn’t have the flexibility of mind to take days off and let my body recover.
I could see that my clients’ mindsets were determining their recoveries. Some of them were stubborn, stuck on one way of doing things, forcing the same approach over and over again with few results. I saw them like a mirror, exposing my own flaws. Rigidity wasn’t working, for them or for me. We need strength to overcome our challenges, but also flexibility to pivot when things aren’t working the way we want them to.
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Fueled by a desire to learn more about increasing flexibility, I walked into a power yoga teacher training having never taken a yoga class. Halfway through class, covered in sweat, I was falling on my face attempting Bakasana. My inner strength coach had been beaten into submission by how much I had underestimated the whole “yoga thing,” and something unexpected happened: I found myself deeply in love with asana practice.
I’d huff and puff my way through vinyasa classes, where each pose got me closer to answering the aching question: How do I stop fighting with my body? I had long approached my fitness routine as a tool to punish myself into a better body—one that mirrored the standardized images I saw in the media. Through yoga, this armor slowly started to come off. Each time I attempted to slow down and soften into a pose, using my strength to support my body rather than demand a result from it, I could feel myself deeply listening to what was going to heal instead of hurt me. I began to witness the compassion and kindness toward myself that I had been missing for years.
Yes, the intelligent placement of my bones and muscles in space supported my strength. But this magical organization of my walking meat sack got me in tune with so much more than any fad diet ever had. Instead of regarding my body as an obstacle in the way of a shiny new trophy, through yoga I realized that this awareness in my body meant that I was the trophy.
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I no longer saw my shoulders as something that needed more shaping, but a beloved elevator to lift me higher in Handstands and inspire courage and confidence. Now, I absolutely won’t deny that yoga and strength training have toned my backside. But what I flex (no pun intended) regularly with my yoga tools is not a physical muscle, but an internal one. The skills of softening, deep listening, and presence were dormant and weak before I found yoga. These mind muscles allow me to see the shapes my body makes without focusing on what it looks like externally. I can now focus on what it feels like from the inside of the pose.
I’ve become more in tune with a source of joy and wholeness that doesn’t come from a judge or a medal. It comes from deep within. Real confidence comes from an internal knowing that we are worthy, beautiful, and whole—no matter what shape we take.
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About the author
Clare Cui is a Denver-based yoga teacher with more than 12 years of experience in strength training. Her passion is supporting career women and business leaders to create the strength in their bodies and minds to show up confidently in their own skin. Find her at theyogathlete.com and @clare_cui on Instagram.
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