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Top 8 Recovery Resolutions for 2019

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#1. Resolve to Go to At Least One Recovery Meeting Each Week

Almost all recovering alcoholics or drug addicts attend recovery meetings, like Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA). These support groups are the main pillars of social and peer support that recovering addicts rely on to get clean.

Motivation and encouragement from others can really help recovering substance abusers turn their lives around. They’re more motivated to succeed. Recovery meetings give recovering addicts an opportunity to let everything out.

If you’re looking for a key recovery resolution that will help keep you on the straight and narrow, aim to go to at least one recovery meeting each week. One meeting a week is all that it takes to prevent relapses.

Studies show that those who go to at least one recovery meeting a week are more likely to abstain from alcohol and drugs than those who don’t go to any meetings at all. Any type of recovery meeting will do the trick. Also, those who go to meetings at a higher frequency are more likely to succeed. Some recovering alcohol and drug abusers go to a meeting a day, especially when they first start out on their journey to recovery.

How to Make the Most Out of Recovery Meetings

Everyone is looking for a secret on how to succeed, but the truth is that there isn’t a magical pill that you can swallow or a magic wand that you can wave around. A huge part of succeeding is merely showing up.

You’re already one step ahead of the majority if you just show up to a recovery meeting. You can improve your chances even more by showing up consistently. It’s easy to forgo going to your support group in lieu of going out with friends. Or, you might simply not want to head out due to dreadful rain. You need to push past these negative thoughts and get out the door.

“80% of success is just showing up.”

~ Woody Allen

The key to success is simple. Show up regularly.

With that said, there are other things that you can do to get more out of a recovery meeting, like AA or SMART. These things include:

  • Build your own social network. Make friends at recovery meetings. Everyone there has the same goal. As you bond with other people at these groups, you become more motivated to get clean and stay sober.
  • Chart your success. Make goals for yourself and keep track of your progress. You can do so in many ways. You can use the tools that are given to you by the support groups, or you can simply keep track of your success by sharing them with others.
  • Find a mentor. One of the main reasons why recovery meetings are so successful is that they often come with mentors and sponsors. Having someone show you the ropes can really improve your chances of getting better. Finding a mentor can make a huge difference. This is why many recovering addicts participate in alumni programs.
  • Help others get clean. Soon, you’ll have some experience on how to overcome an addiction. By helping others, you’ll really be elevating yourself and honing your recovery skills.

Everyone is still celebrating in the first couple weeks of January. Making it through the holidays sober can be extremely taxing for someone who has depended on substances for some time. Recovery meetings can be very helpful in this regard.

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Is 12-Step Abstinence the ONLY Way to Recover from Addiction?

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Does Controlled Drinking or Drug Use Work?

“…patients whose goal was total abstinence were more successful than those who had chosen to control their drinking.”

~ Dr. Kristina Berglund, Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, University of Gothenburg

According to the disease concept of addiction, trying to bargain with or set limits on your drinking or drug use is one of the major signs of a severe problem.

Why is this?

The average drinker or recreational drug user doesn’t start a program like MM, AA, or NA without cause.  Rather, they attend meetings because they KNOW they have a problem. Most likely, that problem has somehow negatively impacted their life in some fashion—DUI charges, relationship issues, blackouts, health concerns, etc.

But despite such problems directly attributable to their substance use, a person in a MM program is looking for a way to keep drinking.

In a 2006 interview for Dateline, Kishline admitted as much.

Dateline: “As you look back on it, was MM something you devised to give yourself license to drink because you didn’t want to abstain?”

Kishline: “I do think that deep down as an addict that was the purpose.”

Dateline:  “All the good research that you did and the presentation of it to a national audience, it was really to justify it for you as a drinker.”

Kishline:  “It would legitimize my drinking.”

In 2000, while extremely drunk with a BAC that triple the legal limit, Kishline drove the wrong way down a Washington State interstate. She later confessed to “driving a hundred miles an hour in a total blackout”.

She had a head-on collision with another vehicle and killed a 38-year-old father and his 12-year-old daughter. For her crime, Kishline went to prison. When she was paroled 3 ½ years later, she relapsed several times. At one point, was even sent back for violating her parole by drinking.

For many years, Kishline continued to struggle, not only with her alcoholism but also with overwhelming guilt. Her drinking worsened and her disease progressed, resulting from the end of her marriage.  In 2015, just a few days before Christmas, Audrey Kishline Conn committed suicide in her mother’s home in Happy Valley, Oregon.

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Is 12-Step Abstinence the ONLY Way to Recover from Addiction?

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Does Controlled Drinking or Drug Use Work?

“…patients whose goal was total abstinence were more successful than those who had chosen to control their drinking.”

~ Dr. Kristina Berglund, Associate Professor, Department of Psychology, University of Gothenburg

According to the disease concept of addiction, trying to bargain with or set limits on your drinking or drug use is one of the major signs of a severe problem.

Why is this?

The average drinker or recreational drug user doesn’t start a program like MM, AA, or NA without cause.  Rather, they attend meetings because they KNOW they have a problem. Most likely, that problem has somehow negatively impacted their life in some fashion—DUI charges, relationship issues, blackouts, health concerns, etc.

But despite such problems directly attributable to their substance use, a person in a MM program is looking for a way to keep drinking.

In a 2006 interview for Dateline, Kishline admitted as much.

Dateline: “As you look back on it, was MM something you devised to give yourself license to drink because you didn’t want to abstain?”

Kishline: “I do think that deep down as an addict that was the purpose.”

Dateline:  “All the good research that you did and the presentation of it to a national audience, it was really to justify it for you as a drinker.”

Kishline:  “It would legitimize my drinking.”

In 2000, while extremely drunk with a BAC that triple the legal limit, Kishline drove the wrong way down a Washington State interstate. She later confessed to “driving a hundred miles an hour in a total blackout”.

She had a head-on collision with another vehicle and killed a 38-year-old father and his 12-year-old daughter. For her crime, Kishline went to prison. When she was paroled 3 ½ years later, she relapsed several times. At one point, was even sent back for violating her parole by drinking.

For many years, Kishline continued to struggle, not only with her alcoholism but also with overwhelming guilt. Her drinking worsened and her disease progressed, resulting from the end of her marriage.  In 2015, just a few days before Christmas, Audrey Kishline Conn committed suicide in her mother’s home in Happy Valley, Oregon.

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